Be present, get curious, listen with empathy, listen actively, set aside your own opinions and reactions. All good advice for developing your listening skills.
For over 30 years, I’ve been teaching listening skills workshops to organizational leaders. A few workshop participants get a lot better. Most improve in the classroom and then revert to their familiar communication habits when they get back to work – some are hopeless.
I’ll let you in on a secret. Those of us who teach leaders how to listen, secretly want to use the skill as a trojan horse for creating more humane workplaces. These noble intentions, however, can undermine the effectiveness of listening skills training. We place too much emphasis on behavior and mindset: how to be a better listener. We don’t place enough emphasis on what to listen for, becoming a more strategic listener.
Those of us who teach leaders how to listen, secretly want to use the skill as a trojan horse for creating more humane workplaces.
I can anticipate the reaction of purists who would warn against polluting one’s mind with listening filters. You wouldn’t choose bait without knowing what’s swimming below. When training therapists, coaches, or social workers I stand with the purists. Empty your mind, open your heart. When training leaders – busy, time-starved, results-oriented leaders – we need easy-to-adopt guidance so they can experience a noticeable improvement.
Got a Minute?
Some conversations are about career development, some are about establishing and maintaining relationship. Let’s focus on how to strategically listen when someone with a problem to share approaches a leader with the deceptively casual, “Hi, got a minute?”
As David Straus, the founder of Interaction Associates, pointed out in “How to Make Collaboration Work,” a problem is a situation someone wants to change.
Most problems brought to leaders at work are situations that the person raising the issue wants to change. The key to being a better strategic listener is to explore the nature of the situation and the nature of the change.
When a person feels stuck, it is likely that there are underlying or hidden influences missing from their thinking. The SCAN model from Unstuck Minds can help reveal what we might be missing when trying to make sense of the situations we want to change. Here’s a quick explainer video about SCAN.
When interacting with someone feeling stuck, a leader should listen for information from each of the SCAN dimensions:
- Ask about structures: What existing systems, routines, or processes are resisting the change you want to make?
- Ask about context: What environmental factors outside your control pose threats or opportunities?
- Ask about assumptions: Name underlying beliefs you hold about the situation? What underlying organizational beliefs maintain the status quo?
- Ask about needs: Who matters to the situation, what do they each care about? Whose perspective is missing from your understanding of the situation?
Without a framework like SCAN, we are all tempted to seek the kind of information we like best. Our favorite sources of information are like our preset music stations or playlists. We get a steady diet of what the channel provides, but a breakthrough might require a conscious effort to hear something unexpected.
If you’d like to learn which of the SCAN dimensions you’re most attracted to, you can take a free assessment and download a report.















